fellas, fellas...
So. Apparently. There. Is. No. Hope.
I've long suspected this. I'm mid-30 and have lots and lots of married friends. I know and have heard what it is like. Everyone knows the rules: the woman rules. But you think it subsides at some point. Everyone does. But does it? Maybe, but here is a story from just tonight.
Out to drinks with two coworkers. One 62 and awesome. Totally cool guy. Well-established. Professional. Two kids, one grad school, one finishing undergrad.
We planned drinks last week. I joked: we are totally on for Tuesday, make sure to tell your wife. He was like, definitely.
Tonight. We get delayed in the office. We always do. No big deal, we were all busy. We leave the office after 7 and head to get martinis. Apologies all around; we client-service guys always hate to make plans with our co-workers because we often cancel or have to make them wait. No matter, everyone had plenty to keep busy, plus all evenings were cleared ---- one properly told his wife, other guy said his wife wouldn't be home until 9:30 PM.
Martini one --- talking, gossiping. Martini two --- make it dirt[ier] --- slurring, evangelizing, losing track of time... At 8:45 we said we should get the bill. Then. The. Phone. Rings. My other co-worker and I knew, just knew it was his wife. I excuse myself to the bathroom. Knew I needed to. Return to the table - "you didn't tell your wife, did you?" "Nope, I thought I'd beat her home... she's a little pissed." As we paid the bill, we talked a little bit about it. He wasn't in big trouble, but the conversation was "normal." He wasn't 62 any more; he was just one of the guys. It was no show. He's been married to the same woman since his twenties. He doesn't go out often, at all, and wondered why she would be so upset. He's 62 and will still have to head home to explain. He's 62 and still doesn't have the answer. And. It. Hit. Me. And. I. Understand.
PS. New facts in today. I know he doesn't read my blog, so it must have been guilt setting in. Clarification. His wife was not upset that he was out for drinks with the boys, she was upset that he didn't put dinner in the oven, as promised.
I've long suspected this. I'm mid-30 and have lots and lots of married friends. I know and have heard what it is like. Everyone knows the rules: the woman rules. But you think it subsides at some point. Everyone does. But does it? Maybe, but here is a story from just tonight.
Out to drinks with two coworkers. One 62 and awesome. Totally cool guy. Well-established. Professional. Two kids, one grad school, one finishing undergrad.
We planned drinks last week. I joked: we are totally on for Tuesday, make sure to tell your wife. He was like, definitely.
Tonight. We get delayed in the office. We always do. No big deal, we were all busy. We leave the office after 7 and head to get martinis. Apologies all around; we client-service guys always hate to make plans with our co-workers because we often cancel or have to make them wait. No matter, everyone had plenty to keep busy, plus all evenings were cleared ---- one properly told his wife, other guy said his wife wouldn't be home until 9:30 PM.
Martini one --- talking, gossiping. Martini two --- make it dirt[ier] --- slurring, evangelizing, losing track of time... At 8:45 we said we should get the bill. Then. The. Phone. Rings. My other co-worker and I knew, just knew it was his wife. I excuse myself to the bathroom. Knew I needed to. Return to the table - "you didn't tell your wife, did you?" "Nope, I thought I'd beat her home... she's a little pissed." As we paid the bill, we talked a little bit about it. He wasn't in big trouble, but the conversation was "normal." He wasn't 62 any more; he was just one of the guys. It was no show. He's been married to the same woman since his twenties. He doesn't go out often, at all, and wondered why she would be so upset. He's 62 and will still have to head home to explain. He's 62 and still doesn't have the answer. And. It. Hit. Me. And. I. Understand.
PS. New facts in today. I know he doesn't read my blog, so it must have been guilt setting in. Clarification. His wife was not upset that he was out for drinks with the boys, she was upset that he didn't put dinner in the oven, as promised.
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